Love gives the feeling of foreverness and some people, as my parents for example, made it in the long run. How did they do it? I am not sure. They have strong personalities and each of them desire a great deal of independence. My father is Aquarius and my mother is Aries. They are different. He is a lonely wolf and she is gregarious and loves parties. And this leads me to my next question: Isn’t just so damn wired when we fall in love with just the opposite of what we expect? My mother always wondered how in the world they kept the marriage going for so long (more than 30 years). The question of this post is simple:
Do opposites attract?
Studies have found that opposites do not attract in the long run. It has been proven time and time again that people tend to be attracted and to marry people of the same educational background, almost the same age, the same political orientation and of similar aspects of intelligence. As the old saying goes, birds of a feather do flock together! But for me, that does not settle it! Are these people happier or have these people just met a good friend? Studies have shown that people that are similar are more stable simply because it is easier for them to form and stay in a relationship. But I am not so sure that they are happier.
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I strongly believe that we are naturally attracted to what we do not have and we try to find these strengths in other people, so we are attracted to opposites. I think that when 2 opposites function as a couple, they try to become a more rounded, functioning unit. The thing is that we need to understand ourselves to know what we miss. Our pure attraction to the opposite personality can be seen as our subconscious minds driving us towards becoming a more complete individual. People in relationships are happier when they have the best understanding of their differences and when they can use these to grow the unit, the relationship.
Is tension a good thing?
I feel that some tension is good for any kind of relation. If you embrace my view on this, I hope you are aware that things can go wild and you must keep your calm and work on it. You must learn that fight fire with fire is not always the way and that some water, sometimes, can bring the peace you are searching for. To conclude with something funny and strong, I have Leo Tolstoy’s words: “What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility!”
But, as my blog is all about astrology, is this valid from an astrological point of view?
First of all, let me tell you what opposition means in astrology terms. Opposition is an astrological aspect that happens when 2
Second of all, let’s see what Sun Signs are opposites from each other:
Aries and Libra, the fighter and the diplomat
Taurus and Scorpio, the pragmatic and the intense
Gemini and Sagittarius, the social butterfly and the free traveler
Cancer and Capricorn, the care giver and the organized self
Leo and Aquarius, the shiny star and the thinker behind the scenes
Virgo and Pisces, the practical and the idealist
All these are opposites in the sky and probably in real life. But even if they are opposites, the fact is that they have things in common. They usually have the same quality. The qualities mark the different temperaments of the Signs and this can be quite significant when you look at relations and compatibility. The astrological qualities are: cardinal, fixed, mutable. Aries and Libra are cardinal for example and Leo and Aquarius are fixed.
Aries and Libra share the passion of a good combat, but one wants to be the first and to win, and one loves the idea of a competitive environment and the evolution that comes from competition. I hope you guessed that Aries is the first one and Libra is the second. These 2 are full of vigor and posses a drive that is unmistakable. They are opposite because if they are in a fight, they take a very different approach.
Gemini and Sagittarius are Mutable Signs. They are both exposed and like the environment influence. Both are adaptable and ready to change their whole life as soon as this sounds as excitement. Gemini and Sagittarius love people and love to join communities and groups. They are both active, quick and ambitions. That means they have a lot in common if we look closely. If they meet by chance in a train, they strike as being quite similar.
Taurus and Scorpio are considered Fixed Signs. These 2 are very happy to concentrate on personal, internal matters. Taurus is practical and wants to be happy and Scorpio needs passion and commitment. They are both very stubborn and will resist all the attempts that come from the outside and try to change their lives.
Cancer and Capricorn, these 2 are Cardinal Signs. I recently met a Cancer and Capricorn couple. They are amazing! They are so different in so many ways, but they still somehow connect so much and share so much commitment and love. they like to start things and to build the foundation of what they start. The trick here is to have the same goals and to paint the same life-picture! Cancer is a loving partner and Capricorn is very committed and ready to go the extra mile. Cancer loves that about Capricorn.
Leo and Aquarius are also considered Fixed Signs. This is my specialty as my life (I am an Aquarius) was filled with Leo people both friends and lovers. Yes, we are both headstrong and yes are refuse to change if You say so. We only change if we want to change! It is a tricky combination and it needs a lot of effort to get this going. It is good because one loves to be the center of attention and the other one does not! This is easy to handle. The question is who is who as Aquarius is a chameleon and they can always trick you! Leos do not appreciate tricks! Keep that in mind!
Virgo and Pisces, these 2 are Mutable Signs in service to the world around them. These 2 complement each other through communication and intellectual stimulation. But Virgo can be overly attached to her work and Pisces can be overly attached to a fantasy. They need to find the story where they both fit and be of service to each other and to the world. Virgo and Pisces will jump from an adventure to another adventure due to their mutable design. They will love this dance and they have a lot to learn from each other.
…they have a lot to learn from each other. I think this is the key to have a healthy, happy opposite relationship!
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